Collaborative Divorce Can Be Healthy For You and Your Future

Divorce rates in today’s modern world are at some would say a rather high rate. Currently, 42% of marriages end in divorce or separation. But, divorce does not have to become the head hanging cliché many have made it out to be. Divorce can still be healthy and sometimes, it is healthiest for those that have children and want to keep some sort of unity for their sake. That is where collaborative divorce comes in.


What is collaborative divorce?

It happens when both parties decide they are able to work out an agreement between each other without having to go to court. Both parties will be represented and generally the attorney you and your spouse hire will be familiar with standards regarding collaborative divorces and the process. This process is also good for both parties as you have the chance to utilize a financial planner for any and all financially planning if necessary while devising your negotiation. Furthermore, this type of divorce gives you the opportunity to negotiate every aspect of your joint lives as you establish your own life, and hopefully maintain civility in your relationship post divorce.


Another major upside of the collaborative process is that is highly cost effective. Beyond the judge signing the agreement you will have very little interaction in a courtroom which saves both parties a lot of time and money. You won’t have to hire experts, you won’t need to testify and your attorney does not bill you for countless hours re-negotiating and filing paperwork, nor will they have to charge you for every appearance they make as there will only be one appearance. The attorney's representation only occurs when you attend court to finalize the agreement.


There are downsides to every form of divorce though.

Without the process of discovery, often the opposing spouse has an easier time of hiding additional finances which can ultimately hurt the outcome for the party looking for a settlement agreement or alimony. It is also best to avoid this form of divorce if you are divorcing on the basis of spousal abuse, domestic violence or adultery as generally these issues occurred during marriage due to a power struggle and will continue through the divorce process. Someone will win, someone will lose and it will not end fairly. Seek an alternative option if you face these odds.


Using the method of collaborative divorce can be effective when thinking of children if you have any along with your own mental and emotional health. It gives you the opportunity to continue some sort of relationship with your ex-spouse will give you the chance to end things in the most amicable way possible. Children feel less of an emotional impact when both partners are willing to get along and work with each other to reach an agreement that is beneficial to everyone involved.